“[E]ntertaining, bracingly honest and, yes, thought-provoking.”—The New York Times Book Review At once provocative and laugh-out-loud funny, Battle Hymn of. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Hardcover – Chua promotes what has traditionally worked very well in raising children: strict, Old World, uncompromising values--and the parents don't have to be Chinese. As the daughter of a fierce Tiger Mother, I avoided this book for the. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is a book by American author and law professor Amy Chua that was published in It quickly popularized the concept and.
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Hi, I'm Amy Chua, and thanks so much for visiting my website! Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is the story of my family's journey in two cultures. I wrote this book. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother book. Read reviews from the world's largest community for readers. An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringl. Amy Chua's account of her strict parenting caused uproar. As her latest book promises to be just as controversial, she and her husband talk to.
I think we should assume strength in our children, not weakness. My youngest sister, Cindy, has Down Syndrome, and I remember my mother spending hours and hours with her, teaching her to tie her own shoelaces, drilling multiplication tables, practicing piano every day with her.
My mom wanted her to be the best she could be, within her limits. Today, Cindy works at Walmart, has a boyfriend, and still plays piano — one of her favorite things is performing for her friends.
She and my mom have a wonderful relationship, and we all love her for who she is. My book has been controversial. Many people have misunderstood it. I genuinely believe that there are many ways of being a good parent.
We all want our kids to grow up happy, strong, and self-reliant. But different cultures have very different ideas about the best way to do that.
And we should all be able to learn from each other. Copyright Amy Chua. Website by Jefferson Rabb. When Chua married her husband, fellow Yale law professor and novelist Jed Rubenfeld, they agreed that their children would be raised Jewish and reared "the Chinese way," in which punishingly hard work -- enforced by parents -- yields excellence; excellence, in turn, yields satisfaction in what Chua calls a "virtuous circle.
Older daughter Sophia is a piano prodigy who played Carnegie Hall when she was 14 or so. The second, more rebellious daughter, Lulu, is a gifted violinist.
Chua rode the girls hard, making sure they practiced at least three hours a day even on vacations, when she would call ahead to arrange access to pianos for Sophia in hotel lobby bars and basement storage rooms.
Chua also rarely refrained from criticizing her daughters, and in one of the many provocative passages that fill her book, she explains:.
Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable -- even legally actionable -- to Westerners. Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, "Hey fatty -- lose some weight. Western parents are concerned about their children's psyches.
Chinese parents aren't. They assume strength, not fragility, and as a result they behave very differently.
Amy Chua is the author of two books on globalization and democracy and is a professor at Yale Law School. As Chua admits, though, the Chinese model doesn't dwell on happiness, nor does it deal well with failure.
Some of the most hilarious parts of her memoir deal with her attempts to apply Chinese parenting methods to the family's two dopey Samoyed puppies.
I was on my living room couch, reading the end of Chua's memoir, when my year-old daughter came downstairs and announced that she had "done enough reading" for one day and that since she had also practiced flute for 15 minutes she was going to kick back and watch TV -- in this case, a made-for-TV Disney movie. Chua tartly sums up the stereotypically "Western" Disney plot this way:. But that's just Disney's way of appealing to all the people who never win any prizes.
Winning prizes gives you opportunities, and that's freedom -- not running into the ocean. I looked over at my daughter and had mixed feelings about her just chillin' in front of the TV, rather than plugging away in that virtuous circle of enforced practice.
I guess we won't be sending out the invitations for Carnegie Hall anytime soon. This is a story about a mother, two daughters, and two dogs. It's also about Mozart and Mendelssohn, the piano and the violin, and how we made it to Carnegie Hall. A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids.
They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:.
I'm using the term "Chinese mother" loosely. I recently met a super-successful white guy from South Dakota you've seen him on television , and after comparing notes we decided that his working-class father had definitely been a Chinese mother. I'm also using the term "Western parents" loosely. Western parents come in all varieties.
In fact, I'll go out on a limb and say that Westerners are far more diverse in their parenting styles than the Chinese. Some Western parents are strict; others are lax. There are same-sex parents, Orthodox Jewish parents, single parents, ex-hippie parents, investment banker parents, and military parents. None of these "Western" parents necessarily see eye to eye, so when I use the term "Western parents," of course I'm not referring to all Western parents -- just as "Chinese mother" doesn't refer to all Chinese mothers.
All the same, even when Western parents think they're being strict, they usually don't come close to being Chinese mothers. For example, my Western friends who consider themselves strict make their children practice their instruments thirty minutes every day.
An hour at most. For a Chinese mother, the first hour is the easy part. It's hours two and three that get tough.