Not Without My Daughter is a biographical book by Betty Mahmoody detailing the escape of Betty and her daughter, Mahtob, from Betty's abusive husband in. Not Without My Daughter book. Read reviews from the world's largest community for readers. In August , Michigan housewife Betty Mahmoody. A true account which chronicles Betty Mahmoody's time in Iran and her subsequent escape along with her daughter. 'Not Without My Daughter' is a memoir by Betty Mahmoody detailing her escape along with her young daughter, Mahtob, from Betty's abusive husband in Iran.
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Not Without My Daughter: The Harrowing True Story of a Mother's Courage [Betty Browse our editors' picks for the best books of the month in fiction, nonfiction. NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER on ruthenpress.info *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Book is used and has been withdrawn from service from a Library. To this day, Mahtob said she has never read her mother's book, “Not Without My Daughter,” which was a worldwide bestseller, nominated for a.
Hiding in a barn in the mountains, she remembers being given sunflower seeds. To this day, they have never disclosed the identities of who helped them escape from Iran. Driven to the border by a series of smugglers, they were led on foot by another man across the mountains to Turkey, and finally the U.
For years afterward, Mahtob had paralyzing nightmares. Her father appeared in them, chasing her. Mahtob and her mother are devout members of the Wisconsin Evangelical Lutheran Synod. Later, she graduated from Michigan State University. Mother and daughter took precautions, but Mahtob says she has lived a normal life.
Over the years, her mother would pull out photo albums of happy family times, so Mahtob would remember another side to her father, rather than the man who became obsessed with anti-American sentiments.
If I write something, I genuinely experienced it and remembered it.
Her mother, she said, is the portrait of a selfless servant to others, who refrained from bad-mouthing her ex-husband. Betty became an expert witness in child custody cases, as well as an author and a lecturer. In the years since, Betty Mahmoody became a crusading advocate to raise awareness about international child abduction.
There were few safeguards for parents in her situation. Initially, in order to divorce Sayyed Mahmoody, Betty would have been required to include her address on public court papers.
It took five years of Betty advocating in the Michigan Llegislature before the laws changed and Betty felt safe to file for divorce.
I was exposed to all these cultures while I was living in rural America. Her father tried several times to contact her. But, says Mahtob, they turned into harrowing times. The most worrisome event came when Mahtob was at MSU, studying psychology. Mahtob had inadvertently checked a wrong box on a MSU form, allowing her home phone number to be published in a student directory.
The decision was always left to Mahtob about whether to talk with him. Her mother never stood in the way of resuming communications with her father, and, on several occasions, presented the positive arguments for reconciliation. Some have criticized the movie "Not Without My Daughter" for what they say are racist depictions of Muslim men, playing into bigoted stereotypes. How Hollywood Vilifies a People. There are Christians who take their causes to the extreme, too.
They hijack their religion and reflect so poorly on their beliefs, their countries, their people. Their only hope for escape lay in a dangerous underground that would not take her child.
Get A Copy. Paperback , pages. Published July 5th by Transworld Publishers Ltd first published More Details Original Title. Iran, Islamic Republic of.
Other Editions Friend Reviews. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about Not Without My Daughter , please sign up. Why do all of you say such negative thing about the book and things like "It's written this way to make readers sympathize Betty"? Why is it so ubelievable for you that it really is a real story. Everybody knows that women in Islamic world is treated way differently than other religions.
Celina Knippling My issue is that she is very derogatory when describing her in-laws and other Persians. I get that she had the in-laws from hell, but her book goes …more My issue is that she is very derogatory when describing her in-laws and other Persians.
I get that she had the in-laws from hell, but her book goes out of its way not only to slam them for every little fault like spilling sugar when getting some in their tea , but also describes them in pretty derogatory terms, saying they were dirty, that they left unhygenic messes all over the place, etc.
If this is how they really are, maybe they have different standards in their family than she did. She sounded a bit anal-retentive in describing her efforts to maintain immaculate homes in the US at all times.
She writes off teachers as brainwashed drones. They probably saw a mom who was fighting to keep her kid uneducated and tied to another country's culture to her detriment. Think about it like this: Also, when she extrapolates her in-laws behavior to everyone in the country, she treats people who helped her as simpletons and exceptions to the rule. Are there limitations there for women that restrict freedoms I and other women enjoy? Yes, but America also restricts behaviors or freedoms they would find just as barbaric.
Her husband was an abusive jerk, but so are a lot of white American husbands, unfortunately. The focus of the book should have been on "I married an abusive man whose family supported his behavior, but thankfully escaped to make a better life for myself and my daughter. When I read the book, I was reading an individual experience, not a comment on Islam or the women of Islam; or even Iran.
It's Betty's experience, and the hatred she describes towards her in-laws is stemming from her plight.
I totally get it. It's a story, not a revolution. Good Read, and a great movie. See all 7 questions about Not Without My Daughter…. Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Rating details. More filters. Sort order. May 06, Crumb rated it it was amazing. This autobiography will make your soul weep.
This story completely took my breath away. There aren't enough words to describe the suffering and heartache of the human condition in Not Without My Daughter. For those of you who aren't familiar with the story, I'll provide a very brief overview.
Betty Mahmoody agrees to visit Iran with her husband, Moody, and daughter, Mahtob, despite niggling thoughts to the contrary.
Once there, Betty finds herself suffocated among a repressive environment that devalues women. Looking forward to their return home, Betty and Mahtob are shocked and dismayed when Moody reveals they will not be boarding the plane as planned.
In fact, their new home, will be in Iran. I will never forget this autobiography. Betty Mahmoody showed an astounding level of courage in the face of adversity. I can't imagine being in her shoes. She was truly an example of a "Mama bear. She endured violent abuse from her husband, isolation, and horrible culture shock; all the while, she never stopped planning and plotting.
I'm simply amazed of what one can accomplish when truly forced up against a wall. I think.. As Betty's father said.. There's a way". View all comments. May 11, Beaman rated it did not like it. The untruths begin with the cover of the book, which features the image of a woman who is dressed in a manner which is decidedly not Iranian. So, even before you have read a single word, you have been given an image that is not authentic. The book is carefully packaged to cater to the American people's fears and prejudices.
Also, the book isn't an isolated phenomenon. It's a product of a veritable cottage industry of horror stories and black-and-white portrayals of Muslim societies Persepolis, R The untruths begin with the cover of the book, which features the image of a woman who is dressed in a manner which is decidedly not Iranian.
It's a product of a veritable cottage industry of horror stories and black-and-white portrayals of Muslim societies Persepolis, Reading Lolita in Tehran, etc. Take Norma Khoury's "autobiographical" book, "Honor Lost: Turns out the author wasn't even in Jordan; it's a complete fabrication.
Google Norma Khoury. Why would anybody fabricate or, in the case of Not Without My Daughter, embellish such horror stories? Because there's a market for it.
These books wouldn't sell as well otherwise. If one of countless Muslim women who live fulfilling lives of achievement wrote a story in which religious Muslims didn't come across as demons, it would be simply discounted as propaganda; there would be no market for it. Only that which is considered true that conforms to the prejudices and stereotypes. View all 38 comments. Apr 05, Denise rated it it was amazing.
I have read this book twice and it is my all-time favorite book. I first watched the movie - one of those you catch by chance on a rainy day. I thought it was good. Then one day I saw the book and could not put it down! I could not believe some of the things I was reading. I was in shock! I still loved the book and this time I knew a whole lot more about the cu I have read this book twice and it is my all-time favorite book.
I still loved the book and this time I knew a whole lot more about the culture. There are many things the author wrote about that are very typical of Iranian behavior, things that I have grown to love about the culture the best food, the love of tea, the strong family unit, the way they seem like they're arguing when they're talking.
My husband agreed that for the most part, it did represent the culture accurately. Except for the uncleanliness part - my husband's family are all very clean, almost afraid of germs. With this book you have to keep in mind the time in which it takes place. It's a time of turmoil and war. Things were chaotic. It was also written before things like the Internet. We all know Iran has its problems. You can't base a whole culture on one crazy family.
Remember also, the people are just like us, but it's their government that has the guns and unfortunately, the fanatical people run the government. Sorry for such a long review, but I had a lot to say. Read the book, it's great! View all 10 comments. Oct 16, Gary rated it it was amazing. A brilliant expose of the horrors of the Islamic Republic of Iran. Betty Mahmoudy recounts her experiences as a captive , with her daughter Mahtob, of her increasingly violent husband who keeps her a prisoner to stop her leaving the Islamic Republic.
She is horrified by the unhygienic conditions of Iran and the total misogynistic lack of rights of women, and the violent anti-American propaganda fed to the population She refuses offers to get out of this vile country unless she can take her daught A brilliant expose of the horrors of the Islamic Republic of Iran. She is horrified by the unhygienic conditions of Iran and the total misogynistic lack of rights of women, and the violent anti-American propaganda fed to the population She refuses offers to get out of this vile country unless she can take her daughter with her.
A brilliant graphic expose of this tyranny. Captures everything as if on camera. What disgusts me is how leftwing feminists demonize people who challenge Islam's oppression of women, proefering to side with the Islamists just because they are anti-Western and anti-Israel. Would they want to live under these horrors and oppression?
View all 26 comments. Jul 01, Ahmad Sharabiani rated it liked it Shelves: View all 9 comments. Nov 17, Dem rated it really liked it. When Dr Moody takes his wife and five year old daughter Mahtob to Iran ostensibly on a two week vacation and then takes their passports and forces them to stay as he decides they will not return to America ever.
This is the terrifying account of their ordeal and escape to safety. Of course you cannot tar a country and its people with the one brush but I am sure this caused quite a stir at the time. I am really looking forward to the discussion on this one with my friend and while I enjoyed the read I did find this one was a little long but this might be more the fact that it was a re-read.
An interesting and very readable book which would make an excellent bookclub choice. View all 19 comments. Caroline Lisa, I don't go out of my way to BR because, well, aside from BRing with you, the experience has been unsatisfying. My buddies don't want to discuss, Lisa, I don't go out of my way to BR because, well, aside from BRing with you, the experience has been unsatisfying. My buddies don't want to discuss, so If someone else proposes a BR, I may join in, but I can't see myself proposing one ever, really.
Lisa Vegan Caroline, Yep. I still feel a bit guilty for ending up reading ahead of you with TWR when we got to some point. I usually try to keep in sync with bud Caroline, Yep. I usually try to keep in sync with buddies. I think even though I knew I had more time it was my first win at LT and I was anxious to get in a review.
I wouldn't be like that now.
Usually when I do buddy reads with 1 or 2 friends we do discuss the book a LOT and try to keep in sync too, if at all possible. I did enjoy my buddy read with you and I have a few other friends with whom I've done multiple buddy reads and we've had great discussions. I can't believe people are still reading this book! I read it years ago when it first came out and had a difficult time putting it down.
Not because it is great literature, or because it is an intelligent, thought-provoking book about a culture few Americans take the time to learn about, but because William Hoffer is capable of writing a light, fast-paced, adventurous story. I felt Betty Mahmoody acted very irresponsibly. She endangered her child by staying with a mentally unstable man, not to m I can't believe people are still reading this book! She endangered her child by staying with a mentally unstable man, not to mention visiting a country she knows absolutely nothing about.
I have known and worked with several Iranians who are nothing at all like the characters portrayed in this book. Reading this dreck only serves to promote ignorance and ill-will towards a fascinating people. Burn this book and read something intelligent! Jun 21, Jafar rated it it was ok. I read this book not long after I left Iran.
There was not a single thing in the book that I could point my finger at and say: There were parts in the book that made me go: View all 6 comments. People made their homes out of cinder blocks, durable cardboard, and any other supplies they could find. It was like night and day compared to where we lived. He had intimated as much to my mom during heated arguments before and after the divorce.
It was a scary time to be a six-year-old, so my mom taught us how to memorize landmarks and phone numbers, even directions on how to get back to the international bridge, and what to tell authorities if my dad ever got a fit of the crazies.
It never came to that, thank goodness, but films like Not Without My Daughter fascinated my grandparents, mom, brother and I. We could seriously relate to the fear of being trapped in another country against your will. Although a super intelligent and gifted doctor, he was a raving, abusive madman—an equally cunning adversary.
Most of the critical reviews of this book claim that Mahmoody is racist, intolerant of Islamic culture, and a liar. Reading certain passages, I can see why some would say that. Culture shock within my culture, if you will. At any rate, I loved that Betty took the time to explain Muslim holidays and customs, foods and their preparations, rules of etiquette, and even bureaucratic governmental policies.
I felt like I too was scuttling along the streets of Northern Tehran. How she finally escapes, and the sympathetic friends she meets along the way will make your heart soar. What a truly inspirational memoir! View all 25 comments. Oct 06, Negin rated it it was amazing Shelves: We visited frequently until shortly after all the troubles started.
They resented the fact that Iranians were portrayed negatively. My cousin was one of them and he and I got into a bit of a heated discussion about this. Personally, I thought that the movie was wonderful and it brought out all sorts of emotions in me. Mind you, I only saw the movie that one time and it was enough. It was compelling and I could hardly put it down, except when it got to be too painful at times and I needed an emotional break. The family was a crazy one to say the least: Her husband was an absolute tyrant and her life had become a living hell.
Not all Iranians were shown in a negative light. There were some incredible kind-hearted individuals also, those who helped and befriended Betty in whatever way they could.
Those parts made me cry. She most certainly does not. I simply cannot imagine having that sort of strength. None of them were escaping a brutal husband. Most did not have a young child to worry about. Finally, every single one of them spoke Farsi. The ones that I have known escaped due to religious or political persecution. All in all, this book was an incredible read. I like Betty so much, that I wish I knew her personally.